So, in that answering phone calls from numbers you don't know thread, there's like a bunch of people who are all like: "I don't even answer the phone much from people I DO know," or whatever.
Well, anyway, what kind of sociopath does this? I mean, calling people isn't always easy anyway, I know I certainly used to have to psych myself majorly up for it, by not answering at all you're just perpetuating some horrific cycle.
kthanksbye.
i ignore my phone a lot...
i mostly call back eventually though.....
you are pure evil!
it's not my fault!
i have phone phobia!
it just makes me feel ike a mentalist when people do this!
like i keep ringing to get hold of them and they are just ignoring it, then you feel ike you are stalking them by keep rinigng them. GRRRRR!
yeah but if they don't answer..
it's cos they don't wanna talk to anyone.. so you don't wanna talk to someone who doesn't wanna talk.. right?
i phone back! :(
yeah but it was like they would say ring me tomorrow
or something, then i would and they wouldnt answer! and yes i did still want to talk to them!
i suppose i can let you off slightly
i agree
although sometimes you just dont want to talk to people. but if theres no real reason for it then its stupid.
Even if you don't want to talk to someone
you could just TELL them you don't want to talk to them, then hang up. That settles the matter in a much more civil way.
^Completely awful advice
not that is really sociopathic
How so?
Its a LOT less frustrating for the other person, who if they just never get answered will obvs be all like: "hey what the fuck is going on? Do they have a problem with me or something?" and not know- and that's far worse, the not knowing, really.
No, it isn't
If you pick up the phone and say 'don't want to talk to you' and hang up, that person will be hugely offended. If you ignore it, you can make up an excuse when you next speak to them.
Oh you're thinking if you don't want to talk to them RIGHT NOW
but even so, they're just going to call again, right? So why waste their time on top of not wanting to talk to them?
oh
so you were actually thinking of people you don't like?
Yeah.
Otherwise why would you not want to talk to them? Maybe I'm just not getting some subtlety of human existence here. But oh well.
Sometimes,
you're just not in the mood for a chat, or you're busy, or you're not in the mood for speaking to a particular person.
exactly
"sorry man i was sleeping" "yeah i left my phone at my friends house and only just saw your missed calls now"
^^this
Simple ppl who do this are idiots
and will one day miss out on something really good or really important
This happened to me
It was my friend with a new number calling about giving me a ticket for West Ham-Chelsea, which we'd already agreed. As he couldn't get in touch, he gave it to someone else.
It was during a period in my life where I panicked if my phone rang and didn't check my emails/leave my room during the daytime for three months, though. So I probably wasn't best mentally-prepared for a crowd of 35,000.
i very rarely answer the phone
i think it's mainly because i've not been able to prepare myself for the impending torture. most of the time i'll call back straightaway. but also, i think i'm just being nice to the person calling because, really, having a conversation with me is NO FUN.
If it rings: it will be answered
^ My mantra
I start sweating buckets when my landlord calls
I never know if I'm going to get Nice Alun or Arsehole Alun. Hence the last time he left time he left a voicemail message to call him back I never did.
I only ignore it if it's someone I don't want to talk to.
Which is most of the time.
BUT LIKE FOR EXAMPLE: whenever one of my Spanish friends call me, I ignore it because they have a habit of passing the phone around to everyone in the room and they all shout down the phone in Spanish and if you hang up they get super-offended.
i used to do it with my parents when i was at uni
i'd be fucked up all the time and didn't ever want to talk to them
Since my vague reform i've been a lot more reachable
talking on the phone's ghey.
When my phone's on it's always on silent, i'd hate the thought of it ringing or me holding a conversation in public. When i notice a missed call i'll text whoever it might be and ask what they want, it's much easier. One of my biggest pet hates is people having phone conversations in the same room as me. Were i to answer a call i'd just naturally leave the room and take it somewhere quiet. I don't really remember the last time i made a proper phonecall i hate doing it so much. I'll make notes of people i need to phone (bills, ordering stuff etc) and get a friend or my mum to do it when they come round.
Your mum makes phone calls for you?
How do you manage that? Mine would tell me to piss off if I asked her to phone someone for me.
I used to hate making phone calls but after having a job that involved ringing up a lot of rude, lazy people to try to get them to do stuff they thought they shouldn't have to do, just ringing up about a bill doesn't seem quite as bad.
The latter bit is completely true
Not that the former bit is a lie, I just don't know your mum well enough to know.
not especially...
just whoever's about - her, my brother, a flatmate, a friend. I seriously don't like doing it. Like last week i had to phone my bank, Vodafone, the council, an agency & a debt thing, it'd have really pissed me off doing it, would've seriously taken me ages.
i hate leaving a phone unanswered
but i also hate phone conversations. it's an eternal paradoxical battle of two evils. phones should just be uninvented.
most of the time i do answer if it's someone i know, though. just not unknown numbers. unknown numbers are frightening. also intriguing, but mostly frightening.
I carry a mobile phone so I can get in contact with people if i need to.
not so that anyone can contact me. I have a landline for that.