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by wrightylew

Not a controversy thread, but

Do you think girls have a shorter attention span when it comes to music, onthewhole, than boys?

I do.

I think girls tend to want their music to be instantly pleasing and satisfying. Like, they wouldn't really appreciate some huge 8 minute blues performance like You Shook Me or something.

I think girls get bored a lot quicker than boys overall, particularly with music.

Would you agree, and if not, do you have any cases to back up your spineless accusations?

wrightylew | 16 May '08, 18:47 | Send note | Report this | Reply

Do

you want me to hand you the rope now or later?


My girlfriend

loves, and i mean LOVES Explosions.

So, no, not all girls no.


But most explosions are over really quickly

surely this just means she has an even shorter attention span than usual and likes loud noises...

wow i'm hilarious


lolwow


^^

This.


No not this ^^.

'It varies from person to person' is a shit horrible answer that pretty much ruins any statistic ever.


no its not,

this relatavist individualism view is in most cases, a perception unique to the Western World, and cannot even be fitted comfortably with the culture that produces it in most instances.


?

How so?


Yes:

Every single girl I have ever met bar maybe my brother's honey.


I was mostly just saying that for the lulz,

but I have noticed something similar.


yes

my girlfriend.

i don't think she has ever listened to an entire album


I'm not saying they're any worse for doing so.

I'm talking about girls' music tastes.

Driving hints at ability.


Is this thread really about music

or have you been failing to reach climax again?


people's attention span, in order, longest to shortest:

1. me.
2. people who like godspeed
3. white men.
4. dead people.
5. black people.
6. women.
7. terrorists.
8. the polish
9. franz liszt.
10. black women.

at least, that's what i read.


brilliant

brilliant.


haha


I love how on that

Black women aren't black people.


yep... different all together...

don't like long songs for a start ;)


no.


OK.

I bet if you took 20 girls and 20 boys from DiS, I bet more of the boys would like a band like Led Zep for example, than the girls.


Proof positive...

then, that girls are cooler than boys.


^thisthisthisthisthis!!!!

a million fucking times!!!


not from DiS

if you quetioned 20 boys and girls walking into HMV then you'd get a very different answer to a thread on DiS about it. I think the figures wouldn't be as wide a gap as you'd suggest, actually.

I hate Led Zep, personally.


I would roughly catagorize

women to prefer Lily Allen and boys to prefer Mclusky.


I saw this thread on the side and thought you'd have started it.

Not sure why.

Anyway I've got a stupidly short concentration span when it comes to music so can't really accuse others but you've got a point.

I think partly what it comes down to is(generalisation alert) women tend to be less interested in the technical details of things, or the issue of what music's "cool" to like or otherwise and have more of a gut reaction of either enjoying listening something or not enjoying it.

In a way I think a lot of guys will admire an elaborate and complex 10-minute guitar solo because it's elaborate and complex irrespective of how good it sounds and I think women are less likely to.


see above for the definitive answer, BUT

for the record, i HATE guitar solos, long songs, indulgence, jazz, bombastic classical music....etc etc....

I have been out with girls who like the most interminable, draggy, 'complex' crap....

unfortunately, our varying aesthetic demands often translated to the bedroom :(


Ironically for all I've said I hate all the things you've mentioned too.

But I think you do get more guys into that kind of thing than girls...


Spot on reply.

You're very wise, Mr TGWNUN. I'd actually never looked at it like that.

You = winner!


Thanks.

:)


This reminds me of my first music thread

'post rock and women' or something like that. Good times.
How do you find old threads?


Whatever you do don't bother with the DiS search

you'd probably have more success goggling it. *shrugs*


I disagree

Speaking as a girl, I very much like lengthy songs - Do Make Say Think, Shit and Shine for want of an example. If I'm watching a live band I don't know and they go into an epic wigout, that can be boring, but I'm sure it's the same for anyone who isn't a) a big fan, or b) a muso interested in technique.


There'll always be exceptions though

so I'm not necessarily sure if someone saying they're an exception proves Wrightylew wrong in anyway.

What's the gender split like at Do Make Say Think or Shit and Shine gigs?


It's bollocks

I know lots of girls who like post rock and Led Zep


And I bet you know lots of girls who don't.

We're relying very heavily on anecdotal evidence here which doesn't really prove anything one way or the other.


pretty much completely disagree.

Brian Eno's stuff is lengthy. and i love his music. Also EITS, godspeed, menomena, cinematic orchestra, orbital, sigur ros.. etc...


what she said

but then as theguywithnousername said, exceptions...

my gut instinct is to completely disagree with most generalisations like this however.


Yeah but that's just a kneejerk.

"GENERALISING IS WRONG AND SHORTSIGHTED AND SHOWS LACK OF BLA BLA BLA BORING"

Many generalisations have firm foundations.


mmm i know what you mean

but i'm not sure if it's right to say this is because of some innate part of being a girl, rather than perhaps the inaccessibility of certain types of music to females because of many different reasons.

it's easier to say "girls don't like blah blah" rather than looking at the roots of why this might be. over time, i have hope that lots of things will become more equal for different sexes/races/whatever, and then we might be better able to judge what is biological and what is societal.

/rant.


Judging by the comments in this thread

I AM A GIRL.

Seriously, I don't appreciate the technical aspects of music at all, I don't really care about genre or style, and I really really hate Led Zeppelin.

Wether that is actually true of girls or not, I don't know, but from my experience, I'd say it is.


:D ^^

PS. Saying you like 'post rock', or 'post' anything for that matter, doesn't count. That stuff's got a Pitchfork veil on it, and so its apparently really cool. So stop cheating.


I don't think so.

We just have an awesome ability to hold an interest in lots of different stuff at once. Whereas, you boys, well - we all know what you're like at multitasking.


Do you like

Led Zep? Beatles post 67? Jimi Hendrix? Cream? Faces?

Etcetera?


I do, yes.

Led Zep have created some classic music that stands unrivalled - and while i would never claim to be any sort of expert on them or other aforementioned bands, i can certainly say that i like them and enjoy listening to them. But that may be because of my age...
also - jimi hendrix....how can you not like him if you like music?!


I...

don't, and I'm a man. Neither do any of the men who are seriously into music that I know.


but look:

* My Bloody Valentine: 10
* Motormark: 10
* Belle And Sebastian: 10
* Stereolab: 10
* Pixies: 10
* Ladytron: 10
* Add N To (X): 10
* The B-52's: 9
* Spiritualized: 9
* Le Tigre: 9
* Basement Jaxx: 8
* Sonic Youth: 8
* PJ Harvey: 8

That's a southern music taste if I ever saw one. You don't like football or mash either, I bet, so you don't count. Sorry.


That's...

about 4 years out of date. My taste's even more poncey these days.


Now I'm sorry I wasted my time writing replies to a dork like you

man you suck

signed,

Seriously into Music

something you and the men you know haven't a freaking clue about.


I meant...

seriously into music as in the ones who go to gigs lots and are in bands and some that make a living in the music industry as opposed to the men that I know who don't really go to gigs or buy CDs or listen to much music at all. Not as in "oh yah, all of my friends are seriously into music, like"


I'm going

to make a huge generalisation here and say that none of those men have any testicles... ;-)


This

thread it pointless, gender doesnt come into it

I know men and women that love Sonic Youth or Mogwai,

but I know women and men that dont.

Surely its generally down to your personality.


Sonic Youth and Mogwai do not count.

I'm talking real actual music, directly derived from rhythm and blues for real actual people. Not flavour-of-the-month bedroom nerd crap that only people in spectacles can ever apprecitate.


lol ...good.


Well

to me it is 'real actual music',

what music are you speaking of?

Examples?


But there are patterns of personality traits

that differ between males and females. wrightylew is not saying all girls are like this and all boys are like this. He's pointing out a general pattern he's noticed.

So saying 'I know someone who likes ______' doesn't really disprove his theory.

I think there is a point about girls tending to require a more immediate connection with music. Certainly not universal, but I think there'd be a higher percentage.


Yeah

okay.


i think it does have somethin to do with multitasking

boys are able to concetrate on one thing for longer meaning they can take and enjoy long guitar solos easyer, where as girls are better at multitasking


No

I always listen to songs all the way through and I know a boy who never has the attention span to do so no matter how short the song is, proving you unconscionably, completely wrong


I can't agree.

I think that, not unlike school subjects or jobs, the differences of tastes in music come from traditions and education. Women were supposed to enjoy some sort of music like pop or classical ( the capacity women have to support very long classical pieces prove this has nothing to do with attention span ! ) and this was passed from generation to generation.

But this is changing : 20 years ago, I don't think many fathers would have played Led Zep to their daughters ( which they would have done with their sons ). Now, they would play it to both.

Well, that's just my idea on the subject, anyway...


gender is a social construct

didnt yur momma tell you


good, like it.

i knew... my dad told my big brother, who whispered it to me in a dream.


Mostly, boys write music, play music and make music so

natch boys are going to be more likely to pay more attention to it. There are exceptions of course. Don't know why this is, it just is- best leave it be though.


This...

is a bad thing, though, and probably more down to the way "serious" music, and being serious about music has been predominately closed off to women in the past. Rock classicism, with a few exceptions, has been a complete boys club for no other reason than prejudice and tradition, and it's a self perpetuating thing, where the more weighted towards men the music industry and musicians are, the more men will get into that industry as women find it harder to be accepted, and even to find role models to inspire them into thinking they too can do it.

Isn't this what various Ladyfests have been trying to make steps towards sorting out? It's not like women are less suited and less attracted to doing things that require emotional expression and creativity.


like I said "best leave it be", but since you brought it up

As a consumer of music, I have no prejudices against women. Just in the last week or so I started two threads about WATA, the guitarist in the band BORIS. She is awesome and I bow to her. I love Diamanda and any female artist who shows me something- but there's the rub, there are just not that many and I highly doubt there is a good old boys network out there sabotaging all the aspiring ladies who have the juice.

No, it is just the way it is. Don't make it someone's fault.


You...

may not, but having spoken to a lot of women in music, they've found a lot of patronising attitudes towards them, especially in the technical aspects towards music

The problem is more one of representation, that because it's dominated by men and boys, music and being in bands is seen more as being something for men. It's not necessarily about a boys club sabotaging the efforts of any talented woman, more a prevailing attitude that making music is boys stuff unless you fit into fairly narrow parameters of being a woman in music, being patronised by people in the industry. And because women are underrepresented and are patronised in the industry, feelings from women that they have an uphill struggle to be taken as seriously as a man. I don't think it's necessarily someone's fault, and it's not a case of people intentionally keeping women out of the industry, more a general and unconscious thing, something that this thread demonstrates very well that there's a weird and backwards attitude towards females being involved in music and appreciating music in general.


exactly this.


It is a question of Carnal Deficit

Men are more physical than women and therefore relate more intrinsicly to sound than do most women. Men need sound and smell and sight to be whole. Men are tethered to their senses, women are ethereal and pragmatic (don't get me wrong; not without feelings and sesnsitivity) but women have more control over their feelings and aren't hampered with the NEED to surrender to their senses. Of course, there are exceptions but onthewhole: this is has been my experience. Men like the sound of farts and women don't (and there are exceptions on both sides). This may sound base and ridiculous but I have studied it. That's why porno is more popular with men than with women. Men tend to get more excited about sounds and sights than do women. Men just get into music more and music that excites men on those basic levels tends to be a nonplus with women. I think that the reason my Wife knows lyrics so well and I don't is cause I am just tuned that way- I focus on sound. I have been singing BORIS lyrics all week and I don't know a single word of Japanese but it works for me cause the "sound" of the words are enough for me.

Have you considered the new and accepted movie catagory "chick flix"? I think "chick flix" speaks volume to some of the elements we are discussing here, maybe.

Pete Townshend said that all the Who's early shows were attended by boys and men exclusively, a fact that led him to query over it at length. "Hmm, how come no birds at the gigs then?" I don't know what conclusions (if any) he came to. But it is telling and I know the Who would've been happy to have lots of girls in the audience.

As to the underrepresentation of women in the industry; I can't buy it. The industry clamored to sell Charles Manson's songs just to make a buck. They aren't going to pass on viable product out of petty prejudice.

As to patronising women in music: These people are much to crass and greedy to patronize anyone.

There is no social barricades holding women composers or musicians back, I just won't go there. As to the original gist of this topic: It is what it is; in general, boys and girls have different needs musically.


Y'see...

I think this is bollocks, and indicative of very deep seated prejudices. The patronising of women in the industry is on the same level as it used to be (and still is to some extent) that it existed in all other forms of life up until recently, so goes beyond being crass and greedy. Being crass and greedy doesn't negate the fact that some people have a genuine belief that women just intrinsically don't understand music in the same way as men, and *that* is extremely patronising, without getting into a genuine belief in that, say, a woman can't know her way around a sound desk because she's a woman.

The Who may well have not got many "birds" at their gigs because of the same reasons discussed above, and more so because there hadn't been the last 40 years of progression. Women wouldn't have went because the prevailing attitude was (and still is to some extent) that rock music was men's business. Not necessarily with men keeping them out (their part was fostering that attitude that rock and roll was a blokes thing) but with women themselves feeling that it wasn't for them because rock and roll was men's business.

Chick flicks exist, but generally aren't especially popular with feminists who espouse the idea that certain images of women are created by hundreds, if not thousands of years of societal pressure, meaning that both men and women think that women have to conform to various roles in society and can only appreciate certain types of art and culture.

Change the comments about music to something else and it sounds like the archaic and backwards attitudes of pre-feminist times. Women didn't talk politics because women, deep down, didn't appreciate politics, their brains were far too emotional to properly discuss things logically. It's not that there's social barricades preventing them from getting into politics, it's just that they have different needs. Absolute bollocks, but exactly the same as you're saying, and exactly the kind of patronising attitude that *is* preventing women from being thought of as musically equal to men, and it's not the fact that men are patronising women and stopping them from getting into the industry, more that as the attitude is prevelant, women feel more intimidated picking up a guitar or a keyboard, or getting behind a mixing desk than a man would.

My friend set up a load of one hour workshops for a Ladyfest locally, and although they were only an hour, so nobody was going to learn to DJ or play a guitar, everyone who attended said they were amazingly helpful because they now felt less intimidated by going into a music shop full of boys who might sneer at them because they're girls and girls know nothing about music.

Like all of the activities and progress of feminists, it IS a case of representation and societal issues rather than an intrinsic difference between men and women, all of the progression of feminism has exposed certain aspects to life that were once thought of as intrinsic differences but we now think of as social constructs. The boys club talked about IS society having similar attitudes to what you've posted, not an evil boys club forcing women out of the industry but something much more insidious. Go to any gig where the artist is fairly vocal about feminism and their position as a female musician and it's easy to see that it *is* a problem of representation.